Pomosexual Pride Day (October 10)

Pomosexual Official Pride Flag

Pomosexual Pride is on October 10. It is a human sexuality term that was coined in 1997 by Carol Queen and Lawrence Schimel in the book, PoMoSexuals: Challenging Assumptions About Gender and Sexuality. According to the book, one can define pomosexuality as, “Hence pomosexual, where an lgbt individual might not fit the precise definition of a single sexual orientation descriptor. They may not fit a sexual orientation that sociologists might use to describe someone’s sense of sexual orientation. Pomosexual lives in the nonbinary area of the LGBT+ community. it challenges the idea that people have to be forcibly boxed into sexual orientation boxes. It is about finding satisfaction in not being forcibly boxed into a sexual orientation term as well as acknowledging the fact that strict definitions in the lgbt + community for specific orientation terms do NOT work for everyone.

Another way to look at it is the “big box” metaphor as the community has termed it. Imagine a large box labeled “LGBT+”. In this box, there are many smaller boxes, all respectively labeled a different sexual orientation term found within the LGBT+ community (asexual, bisexual, pansexual/omnisexual, etc.). No matter how you put these small boxes in the big box, there is always going to be a little bit of room between the small boxes. Pomosexuality is the room between the small boxes. Some call it the “gray” area of the LGBT+ community.

Some examples of who pomosexuality might fit:

  1. People who have done lots of research but don’t feel like anything they found is quite “complex” enough”
  2. They feel majority of people are actually not monosexual (sexual attraction to one gender or sex) or polysexual (sexual attraction to 2+ genders/sexes but NOT all); rather, majority of people have the capacity of experiencing sexual attraction at least once (or hell, have some kind of thought along the lines of “that makes me horny”)
  3. The LGBT+ community, as a whole, doesn’t dive “deep enough” as to what makes human sexuality, well, human sexuality (philosophies behind sex and sexual activities, looking at kink and fetishes, having one partner versus multiple, etc.).
  4. Due to some form of trauma, they’re extremely confused as to if they experience sexual attraction, and where exactly they “fit in” with the rest of the crowd.
  5. Nonbinary and/or transgender individuals who feel that due to their own identity, terms like “gay/lesbian” or “straight” don’t accurately describe themselves

The pomosexual community has gradually been growing in size since its coining in the book. Some members of the community feel that an “updated” version of the original book is needed, since the book has not aged well in regards to terminology used to describe human sexuality, found within the book itself.

The community itself has a large variety of social media links to look for more information about it:

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I’m a queer adopted healthcare worker who writers in their spare time. I have a MPH degree.