(A warning ahead of time, this letter is graphic in regards to sexual abuse and human anatomy, read on with caution if you’re sensitive to such material).
I don’t know your name, so I’ll call you TF. TF, you were the fiance of the man who sexually abused me as a teenager. TF, your husband-to-be asked a girl who was only fourteen years old for nude photos of their breasts and genitals. TF, your husband-to-be asked to be sent graphic emails detailing sexual experiences between himself and me as his fantasies when I was fifteen years old. TF, your husband-to-be would want to write extremely sexually explicit stories and wanted me to masturbate to said stories. He even sent me instructions on “how to masturbate”. I was only sixteen.
I wish I knew who you were so I could actually email you and tell you this. Were you aware of your husband sexually preying on a minor? By all accounts, I was a minor and if I reported your fiance to the police, he surely would have been charged with a minimum of sexual harassment and/or sexual exploitation of a minor. At worst, he would have had to spend time in jail and register as a sex offender. Your country’s age of majority is twenty-one years old, and I was way below that age. I was not an adult in my country or your country. I was 14–16 years old when this happened. I didn’t know what I was doing or reading (and I thank God above I never did what your fiance instructed me to do so over the emails).
I wish to God I told my parents about the incident when it happened. I wish to God I could have told you when it happened, but I don’t think you would have believed me then and possibly not now either. Who wants to get a phone call or email accusing their fiance of sexual abuse that occurred about a decade ago?
The thing is, I don’t think it was only me he did this to. I was stupid enough to give his information to someone I knew and about a day later I got a text message from them saying “He’s a sick pervert”. Your fiance jacked off to an actual teenager’s breasts. Your fiance jacked off to explicit sexual fantasies involving a fourteen year old girlwhen he was in his twenties, knowing fully well that the person was only fourteen years old.
Your fiance is sickening and I wish to God you never went through with the marriage. If you did, God help you if you ever have children. I hope you can get yourself to a safe location away from him if you found out about this “dirty little secret” he had. I hope another victim came forward and told you that he sexually exploited minors. I do not forgive him, but I feel awful for you.
A girl who kept this inside for over a decade and had dissociative episodes because of your child sex fantasizer fiance